Just a few more minutes… or hours. I just want to lie here for the rest of the day, watch movies and zone out. Another flopped date happened last night. Keyword: Another. I don’t get it. Dating is so hard. I almost go into the date feeling like it is a waste of time. And it is exhausting. I hate feeling single and lonely. With each new date, it is the start of a new process. “Hi. Nice to meet you. Let’s be polite for awhile until we are comfortable and then true colors come out and we realize this isn’t the right fit.” Relationship over. Hit reset. It’s so exhausting to constantly be putting yourself out there, hoping the next one could be someone great just to be let down again.
And then you have to replay the let down to your married friends because they feel like it’s so exciting to be single and go on all of these dates. Listen, I love you guys – but the encounters of my dating life are not for your entertainment. I’m glad you find it exciting, but I don’t find it a thrill to be single and lonely.
Don’t get me wrong. There are some things that are great about the single life. I get to do what I want and when I want to. I don’t have the responsibilities that come along with having a family. And, I get time for me – all the time I want, really! But sometimes, it is just so damn hard. There is no one here to help me, to have breakfast with or to go on date nights. It’s a discouraging world to live in. I am all by myself.
And I get that relationships aren’t always a picnic either; they take work. I try to hold the perspective that the grass isn’t greener on the other side; but it’s a different type of grass that I’m ready for. Seriously – Where is that man for me? I don’t get it! Being single and lonely is tiring!
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